Red Flags (just starting out or in a long term relationship)
The desire to feel a connection isn't unrealistic, you deserve that. You deserve to feel heard, acknowledged and actual friendship. Here are a few behaviors that's you've experience or maybe you're currently experiencing, then you know you're not in the right relationship.
So many don't know true communication and honesty. So many walk away from a relationship because they're not honesty with themselves and continue to take disrespectful behaviors. And sometimes because they're self destructive. And dont get me wrong theres nothing wrong with doing things for yourself, but there is when its over the top or too frequent for your personal liking. Red flags you have to Recognize to run from are as follows.
The Part timer ⏲️
No, you are not here for their free time. They should free their time for you. No brainer, you deserve to have that wanted feeling by another individual continuously, not only wanted when it's on there terms.
- Sneaky links
You know this isn't right, no matter what you feel for that other person, if that other person can't bring you out to public and or Always keeping your relationship in the dark, then walk away from that because they don't admire you as someone they're proud of. You then, won't be someone you're proud of.
- Married
RUN FAST, Don't do any part of that drama, trust me theyre only talking to you so smooth because they got a backup, they're PARTNER.
- Ghoster
Okay this one I think we can all relate to, but let's try and remember that people will be okay with you not liking them. You can have that honest conversation and be okay with telling someone I like you but we just didn't connect well. It's really okay, even if you let them down they woukd rather you be honest. but if they do ghost and come back, I suggest not answering and not taking their disrespect again. If they truly wanted to they'll still get ahold of you.
- Self Consumed
If your partner is more concerned with themselves and how they can be happy instead of being happy with that partner shows integrity issues, selfishness, and no love for the other person involved. For instance, if you have a girlfriend more interested in who she can show off to maybe on social media or in public vs how she can make you feel like your best self, and undoubted certainty of loyalty. You might want to reconsider that relationship.
- Couch potato
Ugh, the one that doesn't want to do anything, the one that wants everything done for them and can't accept fundamental relationship values. That its give effort to receive efforts, give love and loyalty to receive that. Mostly everyone wants someone who's is only about them, so why would you be with someone who isnt, or isn't sure. It has to be an immediate yes if your interested in someone, never a eh, maybe.
Best advice I know to give is to take everyone for Face Value. I promise you it's likely they won't change, and it's likely they will not be the person you hoped them to be, they are who they are and you should be in love with them like they are currently if youre truly in love that is how you feel, not love them for their potential.... so dont put them on a pedestal until they make you that same priority.
If you have any advice that may be missing in this section, I welcome any and all. Thank you, you are my village. ❤️